Accusations

I pride myself on being a person that can take accountability for those things that I have done. In the past I allowed myself to also take responsibility for things other people did or felt. I no longer do that, but however bad things may look or however egregious the act, I do and will step up when either the credit or the blame is doled out. However, all this to say that one of the things in this life that would end up giving me an ulcer or at least frustrating (okay, angering) the hell out of me is to be accused of something I have not done. I hate it and want to scream. Now there are some things that I have been accused of in my life that I have not done. Some minor, some major, but regardless of the severity of such an infraction of our moral principles, no matter how minor, I HATE being accused of something that is not mine to own. So, where does this come from? Why would I even bring it up? I was told today that I forwarded an e-mail to someone when I didn't. Maybe the person who is apparently angry at me is because they feel the need to have something to be angry at me for? The lack of communication that usually follows something like this is another perplexing thing to me. I think people rather assume they are right and hold onto their resentments rather than communicate and get to the truth. Let's talk about it doesn't seem to work when you are the only one doing the talking.

So, for those near and dear to me, feel free to confront me, accuse me, whatever, but just know that you might be wrong on your assumption or even belief and not clearing it up with me is more damaging to our relationship then just about anything else.